The Issue of Attraction (cont.)
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
Like an anonymous reader mentions in the previous post, the "appearance" element of attraction that is important when we first meet someone will not be as important as the information we find out later. Of couse, I would admit that the first thing I think about - but the last thing I ask - about gals I would like to meet is how do they look? I don't want to appear carnal, shallow, or immature, but this is really the first thought that comes to mind. I'm still growing in this area, but I do understand that, though attraction is important, the features that initially attract me to a gal are the least important in qualifying her for spending my life with her.
As I reflect on very good persons in my life, they may not be overly attractive, but I still think fondly of them. It dawned on me that when I have known a person for a long time, I don't really see his/her appearance as much as I see the real person.
At the end of the day, I think all of us should be with someone who is a good person inwardly and AT LEAST not repels you outwardly. We should be attracted to the person we be with eventually.
We may trust a sincere person, but does he have the character to keep his word?
posted byWilliam at 8:01 PM
That would depend on how you define 'sincere'. A person who remains sincere over time will ultimately win you over with the trust and committment that he/she has towards a friend/life partner.
Anonymous,
I agree with you on how sincerity over time will win pple with patient, trust and committment.
Perhaps, when I wrote my entry, I was thinking about a pressured situation when a person begin to give in to sincerity instead of being thorough in the assessment of character. Let's say a guy is really desperate to borrow money from me. He is really sincere, of course. And at that moment, I'm really pressured since he needs the money urgently; I might just be blinded by his sincerity and miss the point of whether he will return the money. Because he may not have the character to keep his word.
My analogy of a loan to a relationship is very weak. Perhaps, the point I want to show is: a broken promise is different from a lie; there is a difference between sincere intention and mature follow through. A guy/gal doesn't have to be a liar to break someone's heart.
Unclear thoughts loom in my mind. Random rattles abound on my blog.