Fantasising the Ideal
Friday, May 04, 2007
I think it would be rare for a man not to have, at some point in his life, dreamed of the perfect woman: her height, her shape, the length, color of her hair... I also sense that the imagination of young women (and maybe sometimes the older ones, too) can drift in similar directions. Gals, can you assure this :P?
Few of our loves of our lives would match our fantasies. The precious few. We can fall in love with anyone and be as happy (or unhappy), regardless of how well they fit our conceptions of 'perfection'. Perhaps, the idea of perfection is meaningless then. Afterall, I fall in love with a person, not an idea. Of course, there are may individual characteristics I avoid or seek out. But overall, it's a unique blend of emotional, mental and physical attributes that captivates me, repels me or leaves me, just, indifferent.
Perhaps, it's just like using a camera. I learn to use my trusty basic D50, just as I will learn to love. Working around the quirks, the unexpected felicities, the limitations, the new possibilities - all these things change me , whether I am talking about relationship or cameras. I suppose they (the troubles) can change me for the worse, leading to quarrels in the one case or selling away the camera in the other. Or they can change me for the better, leading to life-long happiness in the one case and better pictures in the other. Well, at least I am happily married to my D50 :)
Maybe I should only have ONE camera and stop thinking about redesigning it. For it will be foolish to redesign it to suit my ideas of what is 'perfect'. Perhaps no one is likely to find perfection anywhere unless he/she starts looking for it in his/her ability to adapt and to learn.
posted byWilliam at 11:02 AM