More of Falling in Love
Sunday, August 20, 2006
Here are more intriguing points from Falling in Love:
Times when one is emotionally aroused, positively or negatively, are times when he/she is more open to love. Sounds difficult to achieve? Activities like dancing classes, trips abroad, exciting concerts… are highly physical and emotionally arousing; these can make people more open to love.
Selecting a partner who is as physically appealing as you are is likely to lead to more harmonious and satisfying relationships.
Beauty still plays an important role as one of the first screens in romantic relationships. I’m a F-student when it comes to dress sense, I should take special note of the following point: You could be rejected because of an appearance that could be enhanced with some effort. As a result, your potential mate will never have a chance to discover the wonderful treasures buried deep inside your unkempt appearance. (Hmmm… I should really make a conscious effort to make myself as attractive as possible by improving the attractive parts of my appearance and personality.)
The general rule is still attraction of the similar. Forget about the exotic and mysterious princess from the distant kingdom (or maybe Prince Charming on the white horse for gals). A person who is similar to you in appearance, intelligence, attitudes, interests, emotional maturity, as well as background, is the person with whom you are most likely to live happily ever after.
Do not hold back love waiting for the perfect partner. Giving love freely and generously to the less than perfect people who happened to cross your path can assure you of receiving many coins of love from the people around you. Among them you might just find your beloved.
Be aware of your love screens and evaluate them. To what extent are they truly yours? Are they part of a social script that doesn’t really suit you?
How do we cross the first bridge of acquaintance? In most of the times, people are more likely to make acquaint someone who is physically/characteristically attractive. This presents two options for acquainting someone at the first meeting. You can either (a) play the dating game and present a mask of masculine/feminine persona, or (b) take the risk the present your true self. Take note that this bridge is a construct of stereotypical views; after crossing it, you and your beloved can progress to truly intimate relationship.
Is it true that one has to present oneself with a mask before he/she is given a higher chance for romantic relationship compared to one who portrayed a true but maybe weaker image?
posted byWilliam at 2:30 PM